Header Ads

Getting Your BDSM Bearings at Café Endlos


Berlin has a bit of a libertine reputation when it comes to sex, but there’s more to this kinky capital city than just fetish clubs and S&M dungeons. It’s also home to a vibrant, multi-faceted BDSM community. As a newcomer it can seem a daunting task to break into such a scene—especially if you’re feeling self-conscious about your German.

Hab keine Angst! Whether you’re an experienced player, a curious beginner, or just an open-minded adventurer, a great place to start is the International English-Language Meet-Up, at Café Endlos in Prenzlauer Berg.

Usually drawing between 30-60 attendees on a given night, this regular event is your opportunity to make introductions, socialize, and generally get your BDSM bearings in a casual, no-pressure atmosphere—not to mention this group’s English-only rule ensures that everyone will feel welcome to join in any conversation.

However don’t assume this is an all-expat gig. Despite the name, you’ll actually meet quite a few Germans here—opportunity, perhaps, to strike up an unconventional tandem situation, or simply a way to get more embedded in the local fabric of Berlin.

You’ll encounter people from all kinds of backgrounds—programmers, teachers, composers, scientist...   vegans. Some are looking for something specific like play-partners, relationships, riggers, or models; while others are simply here for good company and conversation with like-minded individuals. This like-mindedness need not always be on kinky or sexual themes. In the course of an evening, conversational topics can meander and digress into realms of the intellectual, the mundane, the hilarious—the stuff of any other meet-up.

Though the demographic tends to skew towards hetero, this group is open to all types, preferences, perspectives, and persuasions. From rope enthusiasts interested in Shibari and suspension to D/s couples discussing “jewelry” repair, this meet-up can be an excellent resource for information, recommendations, networking, and even party invites.

Expect a friendly, relaxed atmosphere with none of the desperate, predatory feel often encountered in the bar/club scene (especially if you’re a solo female). Here people tend to be very respectful of personal boundaries or of relationship mementos like rings or collars—and those who are not respectful tend not to be welcome long in the group.

So if you’ve been looking to get your foot in the door to the kink scene, drop by the International English-Speaking Meet-Up for a drink and a chat. Meeting face-to-face with other kinksters helps to dispel the mystique or the tantalizing sense of the Verboten associated with BDSM, thus opening up new doors, encouraging new exchanges and new experiences, and creating a new sense of community.

Café Endlos @ Knaack Strasse 43
1st and 3rd Friday of every month @ 20:00
Cost: whatever you order to eat/drink
Dress: casual

By Eileen Carelock 
Eileen is a Berlin-based freelancer and tentative explorer of a tiny segment of the human experience. She ends up hanging out with her dog a lot; she also writes things.
Powered by Blogger.